The students were told in their homerooms Wednesday morning that he had passed away and that I would be going through a rough time and that they were not sure when I would be back.
The next day (Wednesday) was last day of school before the start of Christmas Break. I am not sure when I told them that I would be back after break or if I just went back in January. I felt that I needed to go back, to be distracted, to help the kids, and to not be home anymore. No one wants to be back the day after a vacation and everyone was tired,so I think I fit in. It was awkward to see staff that had not attended the funeral and the students were not sure what to say. I made it through most of the day without a lot of tears. I didn't work everyday that week. It was overwhelming and I felt I needed to be with my kids if they stayed home. Everyone kept asking if there was anything they could do and if I needed anything. My time off the first few days was listed as bereavement/funeral time since the funeral had been on days that were were on break.
I worked with the secretary in the superintendents office to make changes to my tax form. I needed to list myself as single instead of married. That was really hard to do because I still felt (feel) married. I also made changes to my health insurance to make sure that my children were listed as the primary beneficiaries now. I am not sure if she needed a copy of the death certificate or not.
I eventually made some changes to my direct deposit amounts too after certain things were paid off.